tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28480763238092068302012-01-27T22:20:59.001-08:00Perhaps We Learned Something...Kayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12527164450365029203noreply@blogger.comBlogger487125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848076323809206830.post-71604338389409882312012-01-07T10:05:00.001-08:002012-01-07T10:05:42.938-08:00So, there is this girl on the bus...So, yesterday was kind of a rough day.... but it had a nice ending.
Here is a bit of the day that was more funny than awful:
Kayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12527164450365029203noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848076323809206830.post-40460400464551150322012-01-06T09:15:00.000-08:002012-01-06T09:15:51.583-08:00I'm a Pusher... or at least a Pusher-Backer!
I was recently “tagged” into a FB debate about vaccines.
(not for the first nor the last time….)
The article in question was called 4 Ways to Restore Trust
in the US Vaccination Program and and can be found here.
Apparently the problem anti vax people have with vaccines is
that they haven’t been given sufficient reason to trust the US Vaccination System.
So…. Stop taking the medicine Kayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12527164450365029203noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848076323809206830.post-60997529790585358502012-01-05T17:17:00.000-08:002012-01-05T17:17:08.117-08:00New Year New and Old List of Things To DoFirst blog of the new year… but hey, only have to be first once, right?
It’s been a weird few days since the end of the holiday hoopla. There has been the paper-pusher craziness that is currently resulting in me having a job offer but no job despite a start date of next week.
There is also the inevitable slump of spirits post the month of December. Which, I feel is understandable. December hasKayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12527164450365029203noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848076323809206830.post-29062429774761457092011-10-07T09:37:00.000-07:002011-10-07T09:37:00.790-07:00Then and Now
I used to write about colors
Especially Red
And I would add photos
To get your attention, make you pause,
Enjoy the ride.
I used to write about blogs
And leave comments
Peruse and beg to be perused
Tempt you over to my own space on the web
Entertain the masses
I used to write about adventures
In dating
Or the crazy thing that happened on a city bus
That funny thing that Kayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12527164450365029203noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848076323809206830.post-62389728991169057882011-10-06T15:19:00.000-07:002011-10-06T15:19:00.647-07:00Thank you, Mister President.Sometimes I am proud to call him President.
While his views on gay marriage have been “evolving” and it doesn’t appear likely that he will move from his support of civil unions to support for same sex marriage, President Obama has, as he is proud to say, made a lot of progress for the LGBT community over the last two and a half years.
At the Human Rights Campaign gala dinner held Sunday Kayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12527164450365029203noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848076323809206830.post-40992531827514585372011-10-04T18:17:00.000-07:002011-10-04T18:17:30.896-07:00Pants!
This morning I put on a pair of pants.
Not just
any pair of pants, a pair of pants that are a size 6.
This is a
big deal.
See, a
while ago, I stopped wearing dress pants to work. I had a job that didn't need
dress pants... I wore leggings or skirts or dresses and sometimes jeans.
I was
also gaining weight, even if I didn't' notice it.
Back in
February I had a Kayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12527164450365029203noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848076323809206830.post-15667384157849518432011-09-29T08:41:00.000-07:002011-09-29T08:41:00.201-07:00Skepticism and the LGBT CommunityIt is important to remember to be skeptical.
Skeptical of petition pushers who sound like they really are making the world safer.
Skeptical of ballot referendums that sound like they are being fair.
Skeptical of “natural transitioning” methods that sound easier and cheaper than Testosterone injections.
Critical thinking skills are more than just that section that you coasted through on the SATsKayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12527164450365029203noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848076323809206830.post-84536365157947464852011-09-28T08:29:00.000-07:002011-09-28T08:29:00.091-07:00New Job: Week One!
First Week
After a week of work at the new job, I can safely say that
the novelty of waking up at 7 instead of 8 has worn off. However, I really like
my job and the people I am working with.
A few highlights.
The broccoli in my desk: It is made of foam and squishy. But
still.
(Also found in my desk….
Candy…
a mini dental kit…
and way
in the back of a Kayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12527164450365029203noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848076323809206830.post-81598199111133374902011-09-22T19:31:00.001-07:002011-09-22T19:37:45.551-07:00Local Celebration for the end of DADT.
It was Tuesday night and a small but mighty (and loud) group
of us had gathered to celebrate the end of Don’t Ask Don’t Tell at the corner
of Shaw and Blackstone,
In a white pick-up truck a man tried to ignore us, but the
woman in the passenger seat insisted on honking in solidarity.
In another truck, a group of migrant workers broke out into
cheers and waved wildly as Kayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12527164450365029203noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848076323809206830.post-44631320693164607552011-09-21T20:34:00.000-07:002011-09-21T20:34:14.015-07:00New Job!
I had my first day at a new job today. It is a contract
position with the option of extension and based on today, I would love to be
extended.
The Good:
The commute: 20 min walk! Seriously!
The pay: I could pay off my debt and actually afford decent
insurance.
The people: Met some
really great people today, they were professional and welcoming. In fact, you
know how you never really Kayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12527164450365029203noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848076323809206830.post-71831128673843289602011-09-20T09:21:00.001-07:002011-09-20T09:23:36.634-07:00End of DADT!Don’t Ask Don’t Tell ends today!
As of today, the Pentagon will now allow openly gay and lesbian servicemen dn women to serve in th US military. The doors are open for those who were discharged to join bak up, and the military is taking a hard stand against LGB harassment.
For the past 18 years DADT has kept thousands of qualified military volunteers from its ranks. The discharge of hundreds Kayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12527164450365029203noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848076323809206830.post-32196573714901299912011-09-13T09:37:00.000-07:002011-09-20T09:38:09.063-07:00Tour De Centers4 Gay Central Valley Board Members
15 hours
520 miles
Uncounted sodas and coffees and slices of pizza
Dozens of pages of notes
4 Community Centers in 4 –somewhat- distant cities (Modesto, Sacramento, Concord, San Jose)
1 epic battle with seagulls
Whew!
Yesterday morning before the sun was fully up, Chris, Jason, Jaymi, and I set off for a Tour De Centers Road Trip.
Sticking to a schedule Kayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12527164450365029203noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848076323809206830.post-51692396871149436182011-09-06T10:06:00.001-07:002011-09-06T10:06:53.967-07:00A dentist to avoid.Dr. Stuart Smith DDS 4836 N 1st St Suite 105 Fresno
Avoid Avoid Avoid!
On my first visit, I ended up waiting, in an empty waiting room, almost two hours before I was moved to an examine room. Then, I had my X-Rays taken and was treated to a long meandering conversation with Dr. Smith in which he told me horror stories about his problem patients and talked about his desire to write a book before Kayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12527164450365029203noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848076323809206830.post-43525015219792454792011-08-15T14:00:00.000-07:002011-08-17T14:32:31.491-07:00
Life is about changes.. and also about accepting that somethings don’t change.
Things that Change: My mood regarding the Maifan-san being out of town. Sometimes I relish the alone time and the freedom, but sometimes I am horribly lonely and can’t wait for him to come home.My appetite. Sometimes all I want is fruit and bread, other times I crave popcorn and can’t even think about eating anythingKayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12527164450365029203noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848076323809206830.post-57188451889381822442011-08-09T09:04:00.003-07:002011-08-09T09:04:56.827-07:00Moving Forward
On the treadmillOf lifeNot a real one, I have a busted kneePushing and straining, hoping and, yes, sometimes praying.I doubt it will work but occasionally feel like hedging my betsOr at least going through the motionsI want someone else to be responsibleOr capableOr, maybe just aware.The scenery doesn’t changeEverywhere sort of looks like everywhere elseAt least, the places that I goThere is a Kayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12527164450365029203noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848076323809206830.post-81473828568218637652011-08-05T15:22:00.001-07:002011-08-05T15:22:52.201-07:00What it is, IsIt isn’t in the words you sayOr even, the ones you don’tWhat it is,IsHow you knowWhen to touch my handReach across the couch, the front seat, the tableSkin on skin reminder
It isn’t about the gifts you giveOr the things you let me get myselfWhat it is,IsHow you care enough to careFolding the laundry in ways that make me smileA lightening of the load
It isn’t about the time you spend with meOr theKayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12527164450365029203noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848076323809206830.post-68351228585444688582011-08-03T21:31:00.001-07:002011-08-03T21:31:22.382-07:00TodayI swam this morning, in the deep end. Back and forth, arms pumping, legs kicking, trying to keep my breathing regular.Not going anywhere, but trying anyway
I read tables and charts and figures.HIV cases for my area.Thirty new cases in the first three months of the year.Ten of them are “youth”(aged 15 to 24)
I jogged today, in the shallow end.Back and forth, arms held high to increase blood flow, Kayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12527164450365029203noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848076323809206830.post-67430781010675538382011-08-01T20:18:00.000-07:002011-08-02T08:22:45.555-07:00Ahhhh August. Month of back to school sales, last ditch summer travel, and warm warm weather.
Of course the month is also going to start out with the Maifain-San out of town for a night and the car still needing a bit of work.
And then there is the dentist appointment.
Those of you who read here semi regularly might remember my last horrifying dentist appointment… the comedy of errors that Kayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12527164450365029203noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848076323809206830.post-30827659792544596222011-07-22T08:58:00.000-07:002011-07-22T08:58:00.603-07:00Boys on Bikes, God, and A Rainbow ConnectionEver since I interviewed Matt Mazzei about his grassroots organization, the Rainbow Delegation, (for GayFresn.com, read the article here), I have proudly worn my own rainbow bracelet. I don’t bother to take it off at that pool or in the shower. It has, like my support of the LGBT community, become an unavoidable part of myself.
The bracelets symbolize support for the LGBT community.
It gets Kayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12527164450365029203noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848076323809206830.post-1999577903106815772011-07-19T08:31:00.000-07:002011-07-19T08:31:04.447-07:00I have a new piece up over at GarFresno.com in which I talk about the label of bisexuality and pansexuality. Here is the teaser....
One of the things labels do is attach or confirm stigma or stenotypes, which is why we are so careful when allowing ourselves to be labeled. I resisted the label of “bi” for years because I didn’t see myself as a fence sitter, a slut, or a shifty spy. I saw Kayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12527164450365029203noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848076323809206830.post-17811964639405077402011-06-22T14:55:00.001-07:002011-06-22T14:55:18.139-07:00The DressI have a dress in my closet.It is form fitting.The fabric is…. unforgiving.A smaller size bought in a moment of sheer optimism,(I won’t tell you how long ago)It is my dream dress.I want to wear this dress.With a new pair of shoes,Something sexy.With a new hair cut,Something sophisticated.I want to walk with confidence in this dress.Wave to friends,Smile as if the paparazzi were in hot pursuit,Kayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12527164450365029203noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848076323809206830.post-30312463864078683682011-06-21T09:33:00.001-07:002011-06-21T09:33:38.092-07:00Today is the solstice.Today is the solstice.The longest day of the yearThe day with the most sun.Four years ago I was attacked in my apartment, Beaten, Raped. It is still hard to think about. Harder still to talk about.And yet.There was a moment.A defining sort of moment.Where nothing was ever the same again.Not the moment when the bottle hit my face.Not the moment when I realized I was trapped.Not the moment that I Kayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12527164450365029203noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848076323809206830.post-42051728273876336712011-06-19T18:37:00.000-07:002011-06-19T18:37:24.361-07:00How Not To BBQHow hard can it be? I asked myself.
Turns out, harder than I thought.
I know I am a bit behind the curve on learning to do some things. I was 27 before I did my own taxes. I was 28 before I made my first omelet. Seriously. I still haven’t managed to cook a turkey yet.
And I have never don the BBQing.
Why would I? There has always been a dad or a boyfriend or a sister in law to do it for me.
Kayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12527164450365029203noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848076323809206830.post-47544733521496981802011-06-07T09:15:00.000-07:002011-06-07T09:15:17.356-07:00EQCA, Prop 8, 2012, and You!Last night Andrea Shorter the Director of Marriage and Coalition from EQCA (Equality California) joined approximately 25 locals at Fresno City College for a Town Hall meeting to discuss the practicality of putting a Same Sex Marriage Imitative on the 2012 ballot. She assured us that EQCA wouldn’t be making a demission regarding this issue until the fall. *(And yet….)
In an informal poll at the Kayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12527164450365029203noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848076323809206830.post-50682053569040588862011-06-02T14:39:00.003-07:002011-06-02T14:39:15.475-07:00Still here, sort ofHello readers!A few notes: Someone forgot to tell the sun that it is summer here in Fresno. Honestly, people kept telling me how horrible the summer is going to be. As of yet… not as much horrible hot as not all the warm and cloudy. It is June and it is still too cold to go swimming.Speaking of swimming. I am trying to leran/remember what I have been taught. I even bought myself a suit, and let Kayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12527164450365029203noreply@blogger.com0