Welcome to week 3 of my mini-meme
Kay's Seven Deadly Sins Meme
Violence Unsilenced… a place where victims could share their stories.
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(Again special thanks to those of you playing and those of you reading. If you want to find out about how to play, Read This.)
Our next Sin is: Sloth.
Sloth: not the cute little guy from the movie Ice Age… but the sin of Sloth.
“habitual disinclination to exertion; indolence; laziness”
Doesn’t sound that bad does it? I mean haven’t we all had days (weekends) when we just didn’t want to do anything? Sure, and that is fine. I think when Sloth becomes a sin is when we chose inaction over action and it causes harm either to ourselves or to others.
… and since this is my blog that is the definition I am going with.
So let’s talk about inaction. Let’s talk about something uncomfortable. I dare you to read the whole thing.
Let’s talk about Domestic Violence.
Yes, I know… what a drag to talk about right? How many of you will even bother to read this post? Will your eyes glaze? Will you skip down? Will you skip it completely?
Sadly that is indicative of how many people view domestic violence… a ‘that isn’t my problem” sort of attitude., or a “that is too dark to dwell on/read about/think about right now/this morning/before bed…”
A while ago some very brave and wonderful women started a blog called Thank you for reading.
I support this blog… I have the banner up on the side bar and everything.
But I don’t click on it.
I see the updates in my Google reader… but I turn away, I scan the title and then I find another blog to read, something funny… something endearing, something politically up my alley if you know what I mean.
Why? Because their stories are horrific. Because sometime they strike too close to home. Because, like a lot of people, I don’t want to dwell on the negative, the dark, the discouraging, the horrible.
But then I read something like this article which talks about how young people viewed the whole Rihanna / Chris Brown debacle:
• 71% said arguing was a normal part of a relationship
• 44% said fighting was a normal part of a relationship
• 51% said Chris Brown was responsible for the incident
• 46% said Rihanna was responsible for the incident
• 52% said both individuals were to blame for the incident, despite knowing at the time that Rihanna had been beaten badly enough to require hospital treatment
• 35% said the media were treating Rihanna unfairly
• 52% said the media were treating Chris Brown unfairly
Scary isn’t it.
I started thinking “why/” and among the many reasons that I could come up with for young people to have such a misguided view of the situation I thought about how we treat domestic violence, how we think about it, how we react to it, how we deal with it.
Because it is hard to handle, it is hard to digest, it is hard to think about.
Because a lot of the time we feel helpless… why bother to read yet another story about yet another person being mistreated? What can we do?
We can, actually, do a lot.
And we all know it.
One thing we can do is to not turn a blind eye. To not gloss over the situation, to not force ourselves to look long and hard at the bruises left behind.
We can read stories of survival and we can let them become part of our context, part of how we see the world.
And we can teach the next generation that there is no good reason to hit or be hit, fighting is NOT a regular part of a relationship, and that we all must take personal responsibility for our actions.
Start by clicking on Violence Uncilenced, today.
Don’t give in to this sin of sloth, this idea of undesired exertion and apathy… don’t choose inaction.
I dare you.
It isn’t too late to participate in the 7 Deadly Sins Meme, Read This, post something on your blog before next Friday and then don’t forget to put your info in Mr. Linky